Dealing with shame spirals before they take you down!
One of my biggest passions in life is to help people stop listening to and having conversations with the lies and shame that run through their heads. We can spend so much time being mad at the enemy or other people when most times the enemy we are fighting is us, in our own thoughts.
The enemy doesn’t have to mess with us too much because we sabotage ourselves by our negative thinking and self-talk. We listen to lies and shame thoughts about ourselves and others, then we have conversations about it all with ourselves. I know because I did it to myself for a long time. I see people wasting their lives in torment because they are spending their time reasoning with lies and shame in their heads.
We need to work on putting a stop to those negative conversations in our heads and turn our attention directly to Jesus.
Imagine Him standing there with you. Say no to the lies we are having conversations with in our heads. Say stop and visualize Jesus instead! Turn our attention to Him in an intentional way. Tell Him, “I turn my attention to you Jesus!”
We need to stop the argument in our heads before it has a chance to snowball and take us out. Don’t try to figure out the thoughts or reason with them at all because you will lose that battle! You can not reason with insane thinking!
I know sometimes it can be so hard when something is really weighing on us, but turning our attention from the negative thoughts and intentionally turn our attention to Jesus is so worth the effort.
Remember you are the only one who can stop the negative talk in your head and turn your attention to Jesus.
Get out of the dangerous neighborhood in your head and remember He lives inside of you in your spirit. Turn your attention to Him there. That is how we take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
Say no to the thoughts like 'should of' and 'what if', for example.
Change your self-talk (how we talk to ourselves) to something good instead of the negative.
When you are in emotional pain notice what you are thinking about and say "Stop" to those thoughts. Stop and get your head out of those thoughts and into right now.
Stop rehearsing conversations you have had with someone in your mind. Stop and ask yourself where you are right now and is this person here that you are conversing with.
Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t be ruled by them.
Stay in the moment with Jesus and put the future in His hands.
Breathe Jesus in and out. Rest. Breathe. Let go and trust!
Say to yourself, "Stop, where am I right now?" I am right here and everything is okay right this second.
There is not much worse than a tormented head. If you start now saying no to the thoughts of shame you can take the first step towards getting out of the torment hole.
Ask Him for His grace. Grace is His strength!
It is most important to remember that He lives inside of us, so we are never alone.
He is always there for us! He promised it!